Hey Slut!

I feel like the last of a rare breed. I am a LTR/monogamy minded/queer that is in his mid 20s and my total sexual partners is much less than my age. I’ve had three loves of my life totalling more than 6 years and it works for me. Yes, this is Jay Stewart of such spoken word performances as ‘I’ll do anything for an A’, ‘Chairfucker’, and ‘Stimulate Me!’ I’m admitting that LTRs and monogamy works for me. You may think monogamy is lame, but I haven’t gone without sexual contact for more than the self imposed 4 months of abstinence back in my early 20s.

I’m not here to judge, but damn right I am. When you, your friend or even your mentor shares stories about the numerous people that they have been with; I have to suppress a laugh and a smirk. You know what’s difficult? Keeping somebody around and interested for more than just a night. Even harder to make it last for days, months, and years.

You know what’s easy? Getting laid with a random. I guarantee that any of you could have a different lover every night of the week. Get drunk, log onto a queer chat, hook up. Get drunk, post on craigslist, hook up. Get drunk, go dancing, hook up. You don’t have to get drunk, you could be high too.

The thing is that the percentage of these randoms that you will see again is low, low, low. Yet, you prance around like you’re the hot shit, when really you’re just shit! If you were any good in bed, they’d call again. If you sucked cock like a pro, they wouldn’t have given you a fake e-mail address. If you had any sense, you wouldn’t have chosen the attached partner that was just looking for a way out of their shitty relationship.

Up here on my high horse is where I find great comfort. You want sex, you can get it. You want great sex that relies on natural highs and open communication, you can get it too. It’ll take a little longer, but is definitely worth the investment. A random encounter is grand and all, but try the intensity that stems from knowing somebody literally from their insides and out.

I’d just like to put a different face of what a sexual being can be. Monogamy can be exciting and fun and actually leads to lots of sex. My previous LTR partner and I still engaged in as much sex at the end of our 2 year reign as we did in our lust filled beginning. The sex can be tender, naughty, mysterious, intense - whatever you desire. So when you think about the need to get off? Do some long term planning. Go on a date and just go home at the end. Go on another date, share a kiss good night this time. Go on another date and then you can give it up in the back seat of your Mama’s corolla.

Jay Stewart

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